*I wrote the following to myself because I can’t seem to remember it. Maybe if I publish it, I’ll feel too much a hypocrite to forget it again.
The only thing children need is love. If we want to prepare our children for what really matters, then we will love them unconditionally. We will forgive them. We will see the best in them. What truly matters will always matter and the only thing that will always matter is love. “The greatest of these is love.” “Only love will remain.”
If it is possible to love too much, then we do not know God. God loves when it is stupid to love. God forgives when no one would forgive. The reason we are alive, that we even exist, is because God loves when it is stupid to love. Of course, I’m talking as a man. Men think there is a line where love should not cross. God doesn’t know about this line.
The thing that homeschoolers talk about, think about, obsess, blog and read about is how to prepare our children for the future. But we forget that the future is God. We can’t push love aside and take care of it after the scholarships are earned and the mortgage is paid. Those things don’t even exist. Not really. We will not be grateful if we forget love and pursue these things. We will not say, “I’m so glad I took care of that. Now I can bother with the religious stuff.”
If handwriting or math or saying, “yes, ma’am” is the focus of every day of my children’s lives then they will grow up and they will not know that God is love. If the focus of every day of my children’s lives is coerced prayers and forced readings of Scripture and “keep quiet during church”, then they will grow up and they will not know that God is love. And they will not believe me if I tell them, though they might believe it if God tells them.
If the only thing I did all day, every single day of my children’s lives was love and forgive them, that would be enough. That would be everything.